What is letting go?
Letting go is like the sudden cessation of an inner pressure or the dropping of a weight. It is accompanied by a sudden feeling of relief and lightness, with an increased happiness and freedom. It is an actual mechanism of the mind, and everyone has experienced it on occasion.
Think how great it would be if you could do that all the time, in any place, and with any event. You could always feel free and happy and never be cornered by your feelings again.
That’s what this technique is all about: letting go consciously and frequently at will. You are then in charge of how you feel, and you are no longer at the mercy of the world and your reactions to it. You are no longer the victim.
Dealing With Your Feelings
We carry around with us a huge reservoir of accumulated negative feelings, attitudes, and beliefs. The accumulated pressure makes us miserable and is the basis of many of our illnesses and problems. The average human life is spent trying to avoid and run from the inner turmoil of fear and the threat of misery.
If we take a close look at human life, we see that it is essentially one long elaborate struggle to escape our inner fears and expectations that have been projected upon the world.
Interspersed are periods of celebration when we have momentarily escaped the inner fears, but the fears are still there waiting for us.
We have become afraid of our inner feelings because they hold such a massive amount of negativity that we fear we would be overwhelmed by it if we were to take a deeper look.
We have a fear of these feelings because we have no conscious mechanism by which to handle the feelings if we let them come up within ourselves.
Feelings and Thoughts
Because we are afraid to face them, they continue to accumulate and, finally, we secretly begin looking forward to death to bring all the pain to an end.
It is not thoughts or facts that are painful but the feelings that accompany them. Thoughts in and of themselves are painless, but not the feelings that underlie them.
Think, for instance, of one painful memory from early life, one terrible regret that has been hidden. Look at all the years and years of thoughts associated with that single event.
If we could surrender the underlying painful feeling, all of those thoughts would disappear instantly and we would forget the event.
This observation is in accord with scientific research. The Gray-LaViolette scientific theory integrates psychology and neurophysicology. Their research demonstrated that feeling tones organize thoughts and memory (Gray-LaViolette, 1981).
Thoughts are filed in the memory bank according to the various shades of feelings associated with those thoughts. Therefore, when we relinquish or let go of a feeling, we are freeing ourselves from all the associated thoughts.
The great value of knowing how to surrender is that any and all feelings can be let go of at any time and any place in an instant, and it can be done continuously and effortlessly.
What is the surrendered state?
It means to be free of negative feelings in a given area so that creativity and spontaneity can manifest without opposition or the interference of inner conflicts. To be free of inner conflict and expectations is to give others in our life the greatest freedom.
It allows us to experience the basic nature of the universe, which, it will be discovered, is to manifest the greatest good possible in a situation.
Feelings and Mental Mechanisms
We have three major ways of handling feelings: suppression, expression and escape.
1. Suppression and Repression
These are the most common ways in which we push feelings down and put them aside. In repression, this happens unconsciously; in suppression, it happens consciously.
The pressure of suppressed feelings is later felt as irritability, mood swings, tension in the muscles of the neck and back, headaches, cramps, menstrual disorders, colitis, indigestion, insomnia, hypertension, allergies, and other somatic conditions.
When we repress a feeling, it is because there is so much guilt and fear over the feeling that it is not even consciously felt at all.
It becomes instantly thrust into the unconscious as soon as it threatens to emerge. The repressed feeling is then handled in a variety of ways to ensure that it stays repressed and out of awareness.
Instead of feeling it, we project it onto the world and those around us. We experience the feeling as if it belonged to “them”. “They” then become the enemy, and the mind searches for and finds justification to reinforce the projection.
Blame is placed on people, places, institutions, food, climatic conditions, astrological events, social conditions, fate, God, luck, the devil, foreigners, ethnic groups, political rivals, and other things outside of ourselves. Projection is the main mechanism in use by the world today.
With this mechanism, the feeling is vented, verbalized or stated in body language, and acted out in endless group demonstrations. The expression of negative feelings allow just enough of the inner pressure to be let out so that the remainder can then be suppressed.
Sigmund Freud pointed out that suppression was the cause of neurosis; therefore, expression was mistakenly thought to be the cure. This misinterpretation became a license for self-indulgence at the cost of others.
What Freud actually said, in classical psychoanalysis, was that the repressed impulse or feeling was to be neutralized, sublimated, socialized, and channeled into constructive drives of love, work and creativity.
If we dump our negative feelings on others, they experience it as an attack and they, in turn, are forced to suppress, express or escape the feelings; therefore, the expression of negativity results in the deterioration and destruction of relationships.
A far better alternative is to take responsibility for our own feelings and neutralize them. Then, only positive feelings remain to be expressed.
Escape is the avoidance of feelings through diversion. This avoidance is the backbone of the entertainment and liquor industries, and also the route of the workaholic.
Escapism and avoidance of inner awareness is a socially condoned mechanism. People are desperate to stay unconscious. They are terrified of facing themselves. They dread even a moment of being alone.
Enormous amounts of energy are required to keep down the growing pressure of the suppressed and repressed feelings. There is a progressive loss of awareness and an arrest of growth.
And there is a loss of creativity, energy, and real interest in others. There is a halting of spiritual growth and eventually the development of physical and emotional illness, disease, aging, and premature death.
The projection of these repressed feelings results in the social problems, disorders and the increase of selfishness and callousness characteristic of our present society.
Most of all, the effect is the inability to truly love and trust another person, which results in emotional isolation and self-hatred.
Benefits of Letting Go
In contrast to the above, what happens instead when we let go of a feeling?
The energy behind the feeling is instantly surrendered and the net effect is decompression. The accumulated pressure begins to decrease as we constantly let go.
Everyone knows that, when we let go, we immediately feel better. The body’s physiology changes. There are detectable improvements in skin color, breathing, pulse, blood pressure, muscle tension, gastrointestinal function, and blood chemistry.
In the state of inner freedom, all bodily functions and organs move in the general direction of normalcy and health. There is an immediate increase in muscle power.
Vision improves and our perception of the world and ourselves changes for the better. We feel happier, more loving and more easygoing.
About Dr. David R. Hawkins
Dr. David R. Hawkins is a world-renowned author, psychiatrist, clinician, spiritual teacher, and researcher of consciousness.
To this end, numerous disciplines of medicine, psychology, psychiatry, psychoanalysis, behavioral techniques, bio-feedback, acupuncture, nutrition, and brain chemistry were explored.
Beyond these clinical modalities were philosophical systems, metaphysics, a multitude of holistic health techniques, self-improvement courses, spiritual pathways, meditative techniques, and other ways to expand one’s awareness.
In all of these explorations, the mechanism of surrender was found to be of great practical benefit. Therefore, Dr. Hawkins has written this book, Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender, to share with others what was clinically observed and his personally experienced.
The letting go technique is a pragmatic system of eliminating obstacles and attachments. It can also be called a mechanism of surrender. There is scientific proof of its efficacy, an explanation of which is included in one of the chapters.
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A lot of people is going through lot of negative feelings during this difficult time. Therefore, learning to let go has become far more important during this period.
There are much more to share which I will continue in my next blog post. If you are interested to learn more, I would highly recommend you to read this book, Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender, by Dr. David R. Hawkins.
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