Mechanism of Letting Go
Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it come up, staying with it, and letting it run its course without wanting to make it different or do anything about it.
How To Let Go
It means simply to let the feeling be there and to focus on letting out the energy behind it. The first step is to allow yourself to have the feeling without resisting it, venting it, fearing it, condemning it, or moralizing about it.
It means to drop judgment and to see that it is just a feeling. The technique is to be with the feeling and surrender all efforts to modify it in any way. Let go of wanting to resist the feeling.
It is resistance that keeps the feeling going. When you give up resisting or trying to modify the feeling, it will shift to the next feeling and be accompanied by a lighter sensation. A feeling that is not resisted will disappear as the energy behind it dissipates.
As you begin the process, you will notice that you have fear and guilt over having feelings; there will be resistance to feelings in general. To let feelings come up, it is easier to let go of the reaction to having the feelings in the first place.
A fear of fear itself is a prime example of this . Let go of the fear or guilt that you have about the feeling first, and then get into the feeling itself.
When letting go, ignore all thoughts. Focus on the feeling itself, not on the thoughts. Thoughts are endless and self-reinforcing, and they only breed more thoughts. Thoughts are merely rationalizations of the mind to try to explain the presence of the feeling.
How Negative Feeling Arise
The real reason for the feeling is the accumulated pressure behind the feeling that is forcing it to come up at the moment. The thoughts or exteral events are only an excuse made up by the mind.
As we become more familiar with letting go, it will be noticed that all negative feelings are associated with our basic fear related to survival and that all feelings are merely survival programs that the mind believes are necessary.
The letting go technique undoes the programs progressively. Through that process, the underlying motive behind the feelings becomes more and more apparent.
What Does Surrender Means
To be surrendered means to have no strong emotion about a thing: “It’s okay if it happens, and it’s okay if it doesn’t.” When we are free, there is a letting go of attachments. We can enjoy a thing, but we don’t need it for our happiness.
There is progressive diminishing of dependence on anything or anyone outside of ourselves. These principles are in accord with the basic teaching of the Buddha to avoid attachment to worldly phenomena, as well as the basic teaching of Jesus Christ to “be in the world but not of it”.
Sometimes we surrender a feeling and we notice that it returns or continues. This is because there is more of it yet to be surrendered.
We have stuffed these feelings all of our lives and there can be a lot of energy pushed down that needs to come up and be acknowledged. When surrender occurs, there is an immediate lighter, happier feeling, almost like a “high”.
The Real You
By continuously letting go, it is possible to stay in that state of freedom. Feelings come and go, and eventually you realize that you are not your feelings, but that the real “you” is merely witnessing them.
You stop identifying with them. The “you” that is observing and is aware of what is happening always stays the same. As you become more and more aware of the changeless witness within, you begin to identify with that level of consciousness.
You become progressively primarily the witness rather than the experiencer of phenomena. You get closer and closer to the real Self and begin to see that you had been duped by feelings all along.
And you thought that you were the victim of your feelings. Now you see that they are not the truth about yourself. They are merely created by the ego, that collector of programs which the mind has mistakenly believed are necessary for survival.
The Power of Letting Go
The results of letting go are deceptively quick and subtle, but the effects are very powerful. Often we have let go but think that we haven’t. It will be our friends who make us aware of the change.
One reason for this phenomenon is that, when something is fully surrendered, it disappears from consciousness. Now, because we never think of it, we don’t realize that it has gone.
This is a common phenomenon among people who are growing in consciousness. We are not aware of all the coal that we have shoveled. We are always looking at the shovelful we are handling right now.
And we don’t realize how much the pile has gone down. Often our friends and family are the first ones to notice.
To keep track of progress, many people keep a chart of their gains. This helps to overcome the resistance that usually takes the form, “This isn’t working.”
It is common for people who have made enormous gains to claim, “It just isn’t working.” We have to remind ourselves sometimes what we were like before we started this process.
This is my third blog post about letting go topic. I hope you are not overwhelmed by so much information. Don’t you find it’s interesting just by a simple words “Letting Go”, there are so much secret behind it.
If you have not read my previous blog posts on letting go, you might be interested to check them out as below links:
As we dive deeper, we start to learn the relationship between our body, mind and soul. “Human being” is such an amazing piece of creation! And our ignorance has keep us from finding our real true self.
All the informations are getting from the book, Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender, by Dr. David R. Hawkins. There are so much more to share. If you would like to dive more deeper, I would highly recommend you read this book.
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Great article on letting go. I was pleasantly surprised that we as humans are so afraid of letting go of the negativity inside us.
By continuously letting go, you are right, it is possible to stay in that state of freedom. Feelings come and go, and eventually, you realize that you are not your feelings, but that the real “you” is merely witnessing them.
I loved the positivity your article gave me. And I am sure I will be implementing a small part of this in my daily life too. Thank u.
Hi Aparna. Thank you for sharing your thought.
Yes, put that into practice in our daily life. Initially we will be like struggling as we keep going back to the old ego self. But we just have to keep doing until slowly one day it will become easy like a habit.
I love to bring positivity to people. May my positivity bring some light to the darkness part of your life for some people. Namaste.
How negative feelings arise really spoke to me. I’ve noticed in the past that I’d been blaming everything but what was really bothering me deep inside for my past failures.
I’m ashamed to say I’m one of those people that unconsciously creates my own failures because I’m afraid of succeeding.
I’m afraid of being successful because part of me realizes how such drastic changes can change people and I’m afraid I’ll change for the worst if I become successful.
It’s a vicious cycle for me, but since I started doing Yoga (PiYo, actually) I’ve been able to realize when I’m holding myself back and have been able to change my mindset when I encounter this obstacle.
I don’t think many people realize just how cruel our minds can be sometimes, so it’s great that you pointed this out.
Keep up the amazing work, I know you will change the lives of many people that feel as though life is keeping them in a rut.
Hi Aria. Thank you for sharing your life experience.
Glad to hear that you are able to find your way to deal with your obstacle. I have not heard of PiYo, so I do a google search. So it’s actually is Pilate and Yoga combine together 🙂 Sound like similiar to yogalates which is also combination of pilate and yoga.
I wish you all the best and be positive always 🙂